I’m on a mission to remind all women why Adam ate that darn apple in the first place.
I’m giving a shout out to all Eves. Did we forget that we are one of the most powerfully delicious creatures on this earth? Did we forget that history was made in that Garden of Eden? What did our original mother, “Madam Eve” teach us about temptation and the subtle art of seduction? What did Eve know that SOME of today’s women have all but forgotten? I’m here to help us re-claim our “inner Eve!”
I’m kind of upset with SOME of today’s women. Who do you think buys and reads most of the self-help books that are sold today? It is definitely women. Let’s take a look at one of those most popular books. So popular in fact that a movie was just made with some of today’s major stars. The book I’m talking about is, “He’s just not that in to you.” Many women couldn’t wait to get their hands on this book to find out why he never calls back when he said he would. What's up with that? Why are you waiting by the telephone in the first place? Eve never waits for Adam to call!
One of the first secrets Eve can teach us is…..no prize was ever won without a lot of hard work. Do you think that Eve was sleeping right away with Adam under that forbidden tree in the Garden of Eden? Oh no, she wasn’t!! She made him hunger and long to taste that forbidden fruit. He wasn’t getting anything until he ate that good old delicious apple first. In fact, their children weren’t even born until they left Eden. Remember Adam gave up his soul to be with Eve when he took that first bite of the apple from the tree of life. So what’s going on with women today? When did this shift of power take place? Remember…..you’re the prize, you’re the prize and yes by God, you’re the prize!
I remember talking to a male friend of mine one day about this “man, woman thing.” So I said to him, “Hey Robert, don’t you think that a man likes a woman who has a good sense of humor, who is smart and understanding? You know what he says to me after softly chuckling to himself?” “Barbara, Barbara, Barbara……yeah they can tell you that’s what they’re interested in, but their ultimate goal is and always has been how am I am going to get her to go to bed with me!” So I turn around and say to him, “You mean to tell me Robert that all my Ivy League education, all my designer clothes, all my beauty treatments, all my witty conversation is for naught?” “I’m afraid so Barbara.” With the smirk still lingering on his face, he says to me, “So what do you say, your place or mine?” I remember giving him a playful slap but was still disappointed with the “below the belt” kind of thinking of some men.
One of the most fundamental things women should learn is it is never about the woman who is the sexiest, or the one who is the most beautiful that gets the man. Sure, he’ll turn his head and look at her when she walks by. But many times that’s all that he does. It is instead about the woman who has the ATTITUDE! And I don’t mean a nasty or stuck up kind of attitude. I mean the woman who knows who she is and likes who she is contrary to what society may expect of her. She’s comfortable in her own skin. She has accepted who she is and she knows how to use everything she’s got to her advantage. I call this the “Eve Attitude!”
She’s not worried about if she’s pretty enough, sexy enough, smart enough or funny enough. She never gives up her energy worrying about such superficial things. She’s not sitting around waiting for any old Adam to “come a calling.” She’s got too many other things going on in her life to waste time wondering why he doesn’t see how wonderful she is. PLEEEZE! She already knows that she’s wonderful. She never waits for him to acknowledge what she already owns!
It reminds me of a story that someone once told me. There was this pretty young woman who worked as a waitress at an upscale cocktail lounge. Although many eligible bachelors frequented her place of employment, she didn’t have very much success in being asked out on a date. Then one week-end her middle aged aunt (50 something) came in from the Midwest to visit with her. So in walks her aunt in this upscale cocktail lounge. Within a matter of fifteen minutes or so she had attracted more men to her than her pretty young niece did in the whole year that she worked there. Now she wasn’t any beauty by any means. She wasn’t dressed in the finest of clothes. She didn’t have the figure of a “Sports Illustrated” model. In fact she was a little over weight. But what “Auntie Eve” had was an attitude. She was approachable, likeable, and easy to talk to. She wasn’t concerned about looking the prettiest. She showed a genuine interest in the men who she spoke with. She let them know that she enjoyed their company. She was strong and confident and laughed a lot without appearing foolish and giddy.
When she got up to leave, many of the men tripped over themselves to be the first to hold the door open for her. Of course she knew that she certainly was more than capable of opening the door for herself but she also knew that when a man did this he was showing her respect and was honoring her femininity. Although she was a strong confident woman, she was smart enough to know when to show her softer side as well. Yup, she had her “inner Eve” going on and all the Adams wanted to be near her! Compete with the guys and they’ll treat you like a guy. You want him as your lover, not your buddy.
If more women only realized that they’ve always had what men wanted, they could turn the whole parameter of their relationships around. In the animal world it is the males of the species that do most of the chasing. Most of the time they are better looking as well (lions, peacocks, cardinals, etc.). There is definitely a reason for this divine plan. They strut their stuff, fluff their feathers and make all kinds of love noises to attract the female. They know a fundamental law of attraction; they’ve got to work hard for the affections of the female. And even when she decides to let him near her many times she still puts up a fight never letting him forget how delicious she is!
The lion may be the king of the jungle, but everyone knows that it’s the lioness that hunts and kills the prey. In other words, the pride of lions wouldn’t eat if it weren’t for the lioness. Lioness’s rule! In the dog world, there are the males of the species and then there are the bitches! Enough said! And what about those yucky little insects? Some of those little female darlings bite the head off their male “lovers” after they’ve done the “wild thing!” But look at the bright side guys...…..he died a happy insect! And us women are still wondering why he never called again??? Take a lesson from an insect! She’s not desperate. She’s just not that in to him!!! She knows she has what he wants and he pays for it with his life!
And when I read the headlines about all the domestic violence against women in our society and in some countries in the world, I realize that Eve stumbled and fell and forgot to pick herself back up again. So walk, run, shout, knock yourself out, but if Adam has lost his control, you should never stay around long enough until he finds it again! Eve would never tolerate it. Look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself, “Why did I give all my power away in the first place?” The first hit, the first punch, the first verbal abuse, the first time that you are made to feel “less than” what you were meant to be……kick Adam’s sorry little “arse” out of the Garden of Eden. Reclaim your “inner Eve!”
Some of Eve’s secrets:
The smart Eve knows that if he doesn’t call back, then yes it is true that he’s just not that in to you. So get over it already! Not every man who you date is meant to be your soul mate! Accept it, and move on!
Stop giving up your most precious asset. You have what he wants. Don’t have sex with the guy right away. Make him work hard for it. Remember you’re the prize that has to be WON, not freely given away.
Men like a little mystery in their women. Always keep a part of yourself just for “your eyes only!” If he knows everything there is to know about you, what’s he got to look forward to? Never let him forget why he was interested in you in the first place. Remember it’s in his blood to want to chase and conquer. Don’t spoil his fun by letting him catch you too quickly!
Don’t get too comfortable in a relationship that you forget your feminine attributes. It’s what makes you a “she” and him a “he.” Don’t castrate him by always competing with him. Let him win a little. A smart Eve lets him think it was his idea even if it really was her idea. You were born a female and he was born a man. You were meant to be different and not the same. He already has his male friends. Let him always remember why he’s with a woman.
Don’t be a clinging vine, or act desperate. Always make him want you more than you want him. Of course, you may want him more than he wants you, but the smart Eve never lets him know it. Remember the subtle art of seduction! Let him know that he might be able to seduce you, but he’ll never conquer you.
If Adam doesn’t call when he says he will, doesn’t tell you he loves you, doesn’t introduce you to his family and friends, doesn’t make you his top priority, then you just might have given up your apple too soon. Remember to always keep him a little hungry and wanting for more. “Hey Adam, have I got an apple for you!”
Remember that Adam sacrificed himself for Eve by eating that apple from the tree of life. So today’s Eve should never worry about if he’s going to call or not. Come on ladies. Make his hands shake when dialing your number wondering if you’ll even be there to answer his call in the first place!
And lastly, remember Eve would NEVER, EVER tolerate abuse. NEVER, EVER, EVER!
There is a saying next to my picture in my yearbook and it went something like this: “If it was woman who led man out of the Garden of Eden, then it will be woman and woman alone who will lead him back again.” She sets the perimeter of the relationship. From the beginning of time until the end of time it will always be about the woman. Always has been; always will be.
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